The mere mention of Kama Sutra brings about images of a man and a woman in a complex sex position on their wedding night. Some people may even be reminded of kinkier things that may just happen when the heat is on and the couple is in the throes of pleasure. Everyone has an opinion on what this ancient reference is about, and the interpretations vary. The interpretation depends on a person’s understanding and impression of the Kama Sutra.

A Background of the Kama Sutra

Before we discuss the best tips that can be obtained from the Kama Sutra, let me share with you my impression of the book and how it could help the average joe attain sexual fulfillment.

First of all, the Kama Sutra was originally written not for those in the western world, which means many of the stories and descriptions you will come across while reading the book are related with the Indian culture. Even the English versions are filled with Indian terms that, while described or explained, may be confusing to the reader. I recommend purchasing the illustrated (colored) version if all you want to see are the positions.

Secondly, the book is more a relationship guide than a sex manual, even if the chapters on sex positions are the most compelling among the many chapters discussing marriage and relationships in the ancient Indian times. Any person currently involved in an intimate relationship could use the lessons on sex and intimacy.

1. Building Rapport with a Woman

In a sense, the Kama Sutra is one of the earliest manuals on how to attract women, the many ways to build rapport and how to start a sexual relationship with a woman who may have been introduced to you by a common friend. Several chapters in the Kama Sutra are devoted to the processes involved in the ‘acquisition of wife’. In modern times, we call this ‘looking for a woman to date’.

It is important to maintain a modern mindset when reading the Kama Sutra, which means you should always think of modern situations where you can apply the dating advice.

2. Revitalizing a Weakening Sex Drive

Some chapters in the Kama Sutra are extremely relevant to those with sexual dysfunction problems, especially if the root cause of the sexual problems is psychological. The same chapters discuss self-identity, rekindling arousal and ways to become more attractive to the opposite sex.

3. Sex Positions

The chapters that really got me reading are the ones on sex positions. Browsing through the many ways to make love made me feel like I knew so little about sex prior to reading the book. From oral coitus to penetration, the positions are described in detail.

Most of the advice you will read on sex positions emphasize the need for two-way pleasure. This means no sex position should be beneficial only to one partner, and both partners should feel an equal amount of pleasure whatever position they use.